Embrace Imperfection

This is a stolen title...

I was reading a really good write up about "marriage". What it said in a crux is that life is full of imperfections and we need to learn and accept each other's faults and celebrate the differences and we have to stop making each other in our own mold.

Why the sudden interest in a topic that I used to dread?? It is so because I am soon to enter into the "next phase" of my life.

A very practical person that I am, I am not going into it thinking it will be a rosy, picturesque life.I am gathering all kinds of information, advice, experiences and then embracing what all the marriage has in store for me.

I honestly do not see any difference in the life I am leading right now and the one I might have to lead with my husband.( probably because one of my friends had told me so) But my mother tells me otherwise. She says "This is when you will start your life with HIM" and I wonder if I had not "started" my life with him 2 years ago when I had started seeing him first. My mother is right. She says marriage is not a confluence of 2 individuals but of 2 families. Now why does that thought scare me? Don't I want to expand my circle of loved ones? Why am I so narrow minded? Don't I want to love more people in this life? Don't I want to be loved by more people?
Then why the apprehension??? Probably because of "Miss negativity and Miss Judgemental" that have lived in this mind of mine. Now, it is not a written rule that this new family has to be torturous or brutal or irrational or conservative. After all this family has had products like the one whom I feel in love with! So what makes me scared of the whole "family" getting involved?..I cant find any reason now..meaning that my fears have no basis which means I am simply trying to complicate a very simple peaceful life - of me, my folks, my soon to be hubby etc..

Alright, so what if I am not the typical bride to be who is all excited about her wedding and life after that? What if I am concerned about my career more than the wedding itself? That gives me no right to spoil this special occasion for my near and dear ones...

As long as I am concerned, I think as long as I am getting the guy of my choice, I should sit back and relax and try and enjoy the function. It is like a give and take ...
Me: Families, since you have given the permission to let the two of us marry, I shall give you the wedding in return!

ha ha ha..sounds so funny..but it is true..I have to see thins as a give n take only then can it get into my head..

anyway..changing the controversial topic now..

"marriages are made in heaven..only yesterday my mom reminded me of this saying..and I was wondering what b******t!

Pondering over this, I found out that it may not be made in heaven but it is actually very magical when you come to think of how two different individuals form varied backgrounds come into contact with each other (as if it were destined!!) and then grow with each other and become so close that they can read each other's mind!!..There are no inhibitions or place for doubt between the two. They are like a jigsaw puzzle..Match each other as if they were moulded to be so.

But as someone rightly said, this is not easy just like everything successful in life. There has to be the mental make up for making your marriage last..that preparedness, that commitment and that level of understanding and love. And believe me there is no room for that Devil called EGO.

You can never have the best person as your spouse because no such person exists. But you can have a person with whom whom you match best. Matching wholly and completely is not fun. Both of you will get bored doing the same things, there will be no variety and spice. And that is why I said "celebrate differences". Participate with an open mind and be empathetic.

There are no magic potions for a happy marriage. It is like an individual having it's own separate ills and thrills. But there are definitely a few ground rules for it which may not guarantee the "happiest" marriage but definitely can guarantee a rock solid anchor for the boat of your life.