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Tuesday, May 8, 2007
Monday, May 7, 2007
Embrace Imperfection
This is a stolen title...
I was reading a really good write up about "marriage". What it said in a crux is that life is full of imperfections and we need to learn and accept each other's faults and celebrate the differences and we have to stop making each other in our own mold.
Why the sudden interest in a topic that I used to dread?? It is so because I am soon to enter into the "next phase" of my life.
A very practical person that I am, I am not going into it thinking it will be a rosy, picturesque life.I am gathering all kinds of information, advice, experiences and then embracing what all the marriage has in store for me.
I honestly do not see any difference in the life I am leading right now and the one I might have to lead with my husband.( probably because one of my friends had told me so) But my mother tells me otherwise. She says "This is when you will start your life with HIM" and I wonder if I had not "started" my life with him 2 years ago when I had started seeing him first. My mother is right. She says marriage is not a confluence of 2 individuals but of 2 families. Now why does that thought scare me? Don't I want to expand my circle of loved ones? Why am I so narrow minded? Don't I want to love more people in this life? Don't I want to be loved by more people?
Then why the apprehension??? Probably because of "Miss negativity and Miss Judgemental" that have lived in this mind of mine. Now, it is not a written rule that this new family has to be torturous or brutal or irrational or conservative. After all this family has had products like the one whom I feel in love with! So what makes me scared of the whole "family" getting involved?..I cant find any reason now..meaning that my fears have no basis which means I am simply trying to complicate a very simple peaceful life - of me, my folks, my soon to be hubby etc..
Alright, so what if I am not the typical bride to be who is all excited about her wedding and life after that? What if I am concerned about my career more than the wedding itself? That gives me no right to spoil this special occasion for my near and dear ones...
As long as I am concerned, I think as long as I am getting the guy of my choice, I should sit back and relax and try and enjoy the function. It is like a give and take ...
Me: Families, since you have given the permission to let the two of us marry, I shall give you the wedding in return!
ha ha ha..sounds so funny..but it is true..I have to see thins as a give n take only then can it get into my head..
anyway..changing the controversial topic now..
"marriages are made in heaven..only yesterday my mom reminded me of this saying..and I was wondering what b******t!
Pondering over this, I found out that it may not be made in heaven but it is actually very magical when you come to think of how two different individuals form varied backgrounds come into contact with each other (as if it were destined!!) and then grow with each other and become so close that they can read each other's mind!!..There are no inhibitions or place for doubt between the two. They are like a jigsaw puzzle..Match each other as if they were moulded to be so.
But as someone rightly said, this is not easy just like everything successful in life. There has to be the mental make up for making your marriage last..that preparedness, that commitment and that level of understanding and love. And believe me there is no room for that Devil called EGO.
You can never have the best person as your spouse because no such person exists. But you can have a person with whom whom you match best. Matching wholly and completely is not fun. Both of you will get bored doing the same things, there will be no variety and spice. And that is why I said "celebrate differences". Participate with an open mind and be empathetic.
There are no magic potions for a happy marriage. It is like an individual having it's own separate ills and thrills. But there are definitely a few ground rules for it which may not guarantee the "happiest" marriage but definitely can guarantee a rock solid anchor for the boat of your life.
I was reading a really good write up about "marriage". What it said in a crux is that life is full of imperfections and we need to learn and accept each other's faults and celebrate the differences and we have to stop making each other in our own mold.
Why the sudden interest in a topic that I used to dread?? It is so because I am soon to enter into the "next phase" of my life.
A very practical person that I am, I am not going into it thinking it will be a rosy, picturesque life.I am gathering all kinds of information, advice, experiences and then embracing what all the marriage has in store for me.
I honestly do not see any difference in the life I am leading right now and the one I might have to lead with my husband.( probably because one of my friends had told me so) But my mother tells me otherwise. She says "This is when you will start your life with HIM" and I wonder if I had not "started" my life with him 2 years ago when I had started seeing him first. My mother is right. She says marriage is not a confluence of 2 individuals but of 2 families. Now why does that thought scare me? Don't I want to expand my circle of loved ones? Why am I so narrow minded? Don't I want to love more people in this life? Don't I want to be loved by more people?
Then why the apprehension??? Probably because of "Miss negativity and Miss Judgemental" that have lived in this mind of mine. Now, it is not a written rule that this new family has to be torturous or brutal or irrational or conservative. After all this family has had products like the one whom I feel in love with! So what makes me scared of the whole "family" getting involved?..I cant find any reason now..meaning that my fears have no basis which means I am simply trying to complicate a very simple peaceful life - of me, my folks, my soon to be hubby etc..
Alright, so what if I am not the typical bride to be who is all excited about her wedding and life after that? What if I am concerned about my career more than the wedding itself? That gives me no right to spoil this special occasion for my near and dear ones...
As long as I am concerned, I think as long as I am getting the guy of my choice, I should sit back and relax and try and enjoy the function. It is like a give and take ...
Me: Families, since you have given the permission to let the two of us marry, I shall give you the wedding in return!
ha ha ha..sounds so funny..but it is true..I have to see thins as a give n take only then can it get into my head..
anyway..changing the controversial topic now..
"marriages are made in heaven..only yesterday my mom reminded me of this saying..and I was wondering what b******t!
Pondering over this, I found out that it may not be made in heaven but it is actually very magical when you come to think of how two different individuals form varied backgrounds come into contact with each other (as if it were destined!!) and then grow with each other and become so close that they can read each other's mind!!..There are no inhibitions or place for doubt between the two. They are like a jigsaw puzzle..Match each other as if they were moulded to be so.
But as someone rightly said, this is not easy just like everything successful in life. There has to be the mental make up for making your marriage last..that preparedness, that commitment and that level of understanding and love. And believe me there is no room for that Devil called EGO.
You can never have the best person as your spouse because no such person exists. But you can have a person with whom whom you match best. Matching wholly and completely is not fun. Both of you will get bored doing the same things, there will be no variety and spice. And that is why I said "celebrate differences". Participate with an open mind and be empathetic.
There are no magic potions for a happy marriage. It is like an individual having it's own separate ills and thrills. But there are definitely a few ground rules for it which may not guarantee the "happiest" marriage but definitely can guarantee a rock solid anchor for the boat of your life.
Friday, May 4, 2007
Beyond ordinary human understanding; esoteric
How intriguing is that!!..
"It is wise not to seek a secret; and honest, not to reveal one."
I am not wise and I am not honest by the above saying. But I am honest..honest enough to reveal all the secrets that need to be revealed..and there in lies my discretion and in turn I become powerful by withholding some information while revealing the other part..thereby arousing curiosity in the other person so that to know the other unrevealed part, he pleases me and I get all the importance in the world for those few minutes of my life...
I believe, that is how the human Psyche works!!..Importance (supposedly )leading to happiness is what keeps the human race thriving on this planet...Very interesting I must say..
So how to win people? Give them all the importance in the world!But then what about you? hmm...there lies the secret..if you give the other person importance, the others seek your company because you are making the other feel like a king!..And therefore, you become the seek ed! ( Is there any such word called "seek ed")..and voila! The table has turned! ..U in turn become important for that seeker!!!..
WOW!!..it is like I just figured way to the treasure!!
How dumb can I get not to have figured this one out earlier!!
It is not beyond human understanding..is it??
"It is wise not to seek a secret; and honest, not to reveal one."
I am not wise and I am not honest by the above saying. But I am honest..honest enough to reveal all the secrets that need to be revealed..and there in lies my discretion and in turn I become powerful by withholding some information while revealing the other part..thereby arousing curiosity in the other person so that to know the other unrevealed part, he pleases me and I get all the importance in the world for those few minutes of my life...
I believe, that is how the human Psyche works!!..Importance (supposedly )leading to happiness is what keeps the human race thriving on this planet...Very interesting I must say..
So how to win people? Give them all the importance in the world!But then what about you? hmm...there lies the secret..if you give the other person importance, the others seek your company because you are making the other feel like a king!..And therefore, you become the seek ed! ( Is there any such word called "seek ed")..and voila! The table has turned! ..U in turn become important for that seeker!!!..
WOW!!..it is like I just figured way to the treasure!!
How dumb can I get not to have figured this one out earlier!!
It is not beyond human understanding..is it??
Wednesday, May 2, 2007
light
the last "tribute" was supposed to be a tribute to HIM but I really don't know why, I changed it to life..which made equal sense...
So "light" goes out to HIM.
Well, being so close to a human being one tends to overlook how this being deals/behaves with the others..others meaning people other than you. I really don't know if this happens to everyone, but in my case, I simply cant imagine Him with the others, at work, with family members, at a game , watching TV, with teachers, at a temple, at a public place...probably because I have not seen HIM for a long time..or probably cos I have hardly seen him do all this..or is it because I have seen him do it, must have not paid much heed to it and now that I miss HIM so much, I am wondering how it will be...
Also, it makes so much more sense when I hear little things about HIM from his friends and near and dear ones...Makes me realise that He means so much to many more people in the world..for me the "world" right now is only HIM, my folks and my very very close friends..So far it has not included HIS friends or HIS family...but things are soon to change...for the better( I have come to realise)..soon, HIS world will expand to include mine as well...
or knowing the person that he is , HIS world already includes my little world..
What actually I was getting at is that this person that I am writing about, has contributed (in good way) in a BIG way to not only his friends but also to so many others who have had no major interaction with him. His passion for things has touched many a lives.
I am sure everyone has an impact on other people's lives..but this is different..(not like Bollywood movies) but honestly, different! Different in a way that the interactions will not leave you feeling that something is missing..He will try his best to give you what all you are asking for ... and you can actually see this person taking all the pain, to give you what all he can..now how often do you see such honest to the heart, earnest people ...
Hardly!...
And this is just the beginning!!
So "light" goes out to HIM.
Well, being so close to a human being one tends to overlook how this being deals/behaves with the others..others meaning people other than you. I really don't know if this happens to everyone, but in my case, I simply cant imagine Him with the others, at work, with family members, at a game , watching TV, with teachers, at a temple, at a public place...probably because I have not seen HIM for a long time..or probably cos I have hardly seen him do all this..or is it because I have seen him do it, must have not paid much heed to it and now that I miss HIM so much, I am wondering how it will be...
Also, it makes so much more sense when I hear little things about HIM from his friends and near and dear ones...Makes me realise that He means so much to many more people in the world..for me the "world" right now is only HIM, my folks and my very very close friends..So far it has not included HIS friends or HIS family...but things are soon to change...for the better( I have come to realise)..soon, HIS world will expand to include mine as well...
or knowing the person that he is , HIS world already includes my little world..
What actually I was getting at is that this person that I am writing about, has contributed (in good way) in a BIG way to not only his friends but also to so many others who have had no major interaction with him. His passion for things has touched many a lives.
I am sure everyone has an impact on other people's lives..but this is different..(not like Bollywood movies) but honestly, different! Different in a way that the interactions will not leave you feeling that something is missing..He will try his best to give you what all you are asking for ... and you can actually see this person taking all the pain, to give you what all he can..now how often do you see such honest to the heart, earnest people ...
Hardly!...
And this is just the beginning!!
A Tribute...
to what?...............................to life!!
Very surprising it is..coming from a pessimist like me...I never quite understood when people said "life is Beautiful"..I still don't..but I do understand that Life is magical, mysterious and a bundle of surprises- good and bad..
So why do I need to pay a tribute to Life?..I really don't know..probably one of my ways to thank Life...
"Hey My Life! Thank you so much for making the journey so far...interesting?not bad? good? what exactly should I say?..( the pessimist again)...Thank you for making the journey a pleasant one and a happy one and an enriching one...and also for pampering me so far...
talking about enriching..what exactly do I mean by it...according my my brain wave..enriching for me is a pleasant, happy, satisfying learning experience...
So what has life taught me?? I want to put this in writing so that I don't forget it " my life so far has been HAPPY"....yes..I said it..I am a happy person and my life has been happy. I have not yet faced any hardships ..WOW!!..wish I could carry this attitude forever..but I know this feeling is momentary...Well, then how can I make this feeling last long..long enough so that it ends with me in my death bed? The only way to do this is to keep reinforcing it in my mind and let my subconscious soak it and drink it and eventually live it...
better said than done!..
Wat amazing philosophy!!..I love listening t such things..I guess everyone does..after all..listening isn't the tough part!..it is the execution that tests people's strength..strength of the mind and will power...
Talking about will power..people tell me, I have tonnes of it in me...then why am I unable to use it when the time comes? why am I not able to control my mind? why am i so stuck up? I should have the power to command my mind..
I think I can..and I think I am going to do just that. It is an experiment I will take up in order to make others happy and to become more easy going in life...
I guess that is what it is..Life is like a journey..but where to? a materialistic goal to become an AVP ( I'm being realistic here ;)) in another year? or is the goal to achieve eternal peace and happiness ( how do u define that now?)..ok..so life is a journey to ... to.... to...hmmm...cant think anything ..which indicates an urgent need to set a goal!!
But how do I define a Goal? Can someone help me?
Very surprising it is..coming from a pessimist like me...I never quite understood when people said "life is Beautiful"..I still don't..but I do understand that Life is magical, mysterious and a bundle of surprises- good and bad..
So why do I need to pay a tribute to Life?..I really don't know..probably one of my ways to thank Life...
"Hey My Life! Thank you so much for making the journey so far...interesting?not bad? good? what exactly should I say?..( the pessimist again)...Thank you for making the journey a pleasant one and a happy one and an enriching one...and also for pampering me so far...
talking about enriching..what exactly do I mean by it...according my my brain wave..enriching for me is a pleasant, happy, satisfying learning experience...
So what has life taught me?? I want to put this in writing so that I don't forget it " my life so far has been HAPPY"....yes..I said it..I am a happy person and my life has been happy. I have not yet faced any hardships ..WOW!!..wish I could carry this attitude forever..but I know this feeling is momentary...Well, then how can I make this feeling last long..long enough so that it ends with me in my death bed? The only way to do this is to keep reinforcing it in my mind and let my subconscious soak it and drink it and eventually live it...
better said than done!..
Wat amazing philosophy!!..I love listening t such things..I guess everyone does..after all..listening isn't the tough part!..it is the execution that tests people's strength..strength of the mind and will power...
Talking about will power..people tell me, I have tonnes of it in me...then why am I unable to use it when the time comes? why am I not able to control my mind? why am i so stuck up? I should have the power to command my mind..
I think I can..and I think I am going to do just that. It is an experiment I will take up in order to make others happy and to become more easy going in life...
I guess that is what it is..Life is like a journey..but where to? a materialistic goal to become an AVP ( I'm being realistic here ;)) in another year? or is the goal to achieve eternal peace and happiness ( how do u define that now?)..ok..so life is a journey to ... to.... to...hmmm...cant think anything ..which indicates an urgent need to set a goal!!
But how do I define a Goal? Can someone help me?
Tuesday, May 1, 2007
my first time...
Hi all!
This is my virgin attempt at blogging. I am all excited and charged up. Dont know if I will continue doing it or will lose all the enthusiasm I have in me right now.
Do not know if this will be appreciated, ignored and abandoned or will it stir a storm in the community? (community?..who is going to read my blog!)..anyway..Wondering if I will get famous or will I become one little drop in the big blogging ocean...
Anyway..enough about wat my blog might do or might not do...
Shall come to introducing myself.. (do ppl intro themselves? or is it just me? or it is that everyone gets to know the blogger through his/her blog?is it safe to introduce myself if I want to be anonymous?)
I feel like doing it, so lets do it. I am a city-bred mixture- a mixture of ideals, cultures, genes, ideas, languages.
Does that make me unique?I dont think so..everyone is a mixture isnt it? But then why do I consider myself unique? Probably because I am "self" centered...but I think every one is self centered !!So does everyone think he/she is special?
So what if I am special?How will that make me any important or popular? And even if I become popular or special, what makes me think that I will be any happier? Being special/ popular is not going to make my problems go away...will it? So what if I am appreciated by lot of people?Will that make me happy? Will it gaurentee no problems at all in my life? Or will it simply add on to my stock of issues/problems? I think my life will become more difficult..
Thank God!..You did not make me popular or famous or more unique than others ..
Anyway, I can confidently say that I possess some ideas that are not taken very well by my near and dear ones...call it weird, unrealistic. But I think that everyone has such unrealistic weird, un- contemporary ideas, it is just that they are unable to express it...so does that mean I have the "guts" to say it out loud? or I am uncaring selfish and egoistic? I really dont know...wish I knew it....
This is my virgin attempt at blogging. I am all excited and charged up. Dont know if I will continue doing it or will lose all the enthusiasm I have in me right now.
Do not know if this will be appreciated, ignored and abandoned or will it stir a storm in the community? (community?..who is going to read my blog!)..anyway..Wondering if I will get famous or will I become one little drop in the big blogging ocean...
Anyway..enough about wat my blog might do or might not do...
Shall come to introducing myself.. (do ppl intro themselves? or is it just me? or it is that everyone gets to know the blogger through his/her blog?is it safe to introduce myself if I want to be anonymous?)
I feel like doing it, so lets do it. I am a city-bred mixture- a mixture of ideals, cultures, genes, ideas, languages.
Does that make me unique?I dont think so..everyone is a mixture isnt it? But then why do I consider myself unique? Probably because I am "self" centered...but I think every one is self centered !!So does everyone think he/she is special?
So what if I am special?How will that make me any important or popular? And even if I become popular or special, what makes me think that I will be any happier? Being special/ popular is not going to make my problems go away...will it? So what if I am appreciated by lot of people?Will that make me happy? Will it gaurentee no problems at all in my life? Or will it simply add on to my stock of issues/problems? I think my life will become more difficult..
Thank God!..You did not make me popular or famous or more unique than others ..
Anyway, I can confidently say that I possess some ideas that are not taken very well by my near and dear ones...call it weird, unrealistic. But I think that everyone has such unrealistic weird, un- contemporary ideas, it is just that they are unable to express it...so does that mean I have the "guts" to say it out loud? or I am uncaring selfish and egoistic? I really dont know...wish I knew it....
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